Mindfulness is "the psychological process of bringing one's attention to experiences occurring in the present moment", and I believe the answer to most of my problems. But, whenever I focus on the present moment, I am judgmental about what I see. Being in the present moment is not enough, I need to be kinder to myself.
In all of the ways we can take care of ourselves, working out, eating healthy, if I don't change how I talk to myself I am never going to do those things. And it is not even the thoughts in my head, it is the way I judge myself for having them.
This is my Happy Planner and I am using it to keep track of my mental health. At some point in my day I will stop and check in with my negative thoughts. I will write one down the first box. In the second box, and in another color, I take a few moments to think of a gentle and kind thing to tell myself. I am not trying to answer my problem or even address it. My first thought needs to be acknowledging my feelings and not beating myself up for feeling them. What I've been doing is go from anxious thought to judging myself for having the anxious thought, and none of that is going to help me deal with anything.
Besides, why would I say anything mean to little suzi? She is so full of hope and dreams wrapped up in fabulous polyester. She needs to be told things gently and kindly. Maybe then we can get her to learn.
Next Sunday I will update my weekly spread and show you how I did. If you would like to see more, and post your own journal/planner pages, join the group. It is free.