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We Are Only as Sick as Our Secrets
There are a hell-of-a-lot of things #metoo can be applied to. I've panicked in the car before going into a party because I felt fat and my clothes were ugly. (me too) I've eaten half a chocolate cake to stop from crying. (me too) Sometimes, when I talk to people out in the world, I can't stop the negative thoughts in my head that tell me I am more flawed than everyone else. (me too) Lately I have been feeling that there is so much hate in the world that nothing I do really matters. (me too)
Creepy Hollywood guys would not be fired recently if the women did not come forward in numbers and tell the truth about what has been going on in secret. There is power in numbers for real change to take place, and in creativity, it only takes the number 2. Me and you. Me too. That is the basis of AA when it was created back in the day when there were no support groups. Just one alcoholic talking to another is the remedy for a daily reprieve from insanity. (Doing something over and over and expecting different results.) Recovery is finally putting down all the masks we use to hide the crazy and saying to ourselves, hey, this is really messed up and its getting in the way of everything. But healing occurs more rapidly when we have someone to share that burden with us, not to offer advice or tell you not to let it bother you or it's time to get your sh*t together and move on. Just someone to say, "Yes, me too."
Identify Don't Compare
You won't always relate to the experience of others, but you can identify with the feelings. Just because I have never used heroin doesn't mean I do not know what it feels like to be so lost and emotional I want to numb out and float away. I may never have had auditory hallucinations (which happens in schizophrenia), my negative mental chatter has certainly run my life. And although I have never attempted suicide, but I absolutely have gone for periods of time where I lost faith in human kindness and my life felt meaningless. But there for the grace of god is a saying I use often. It is only through circumstance that I haven't done certain things. The word I always use is 'yet'.
Accept Life Has Grey Areas
I have dealt with and still deal with a lot of craziness in my life, but everything is not all melancholy and tragic. I have happy things happen and live in beauty too. (Me too!) . That, my beautiful friend, is what recovery is. Dysfunction is thinking your world is all bad and therefore wallowing in it and sliding deeper into the muck until you drown, but it's also pushing the much under a pretty pink carpet (the plush kind, with strands of glitter) and pretending it is not there, all the while it's seeping through the fibers and everyone can see it no matter how much you deny it is there. Muck and guck doesn't go away until you acknowledge it is there and clean it up. The women that came out publicly about the sexual abuse in their lives had good stuff going on too, but look at the healing and PROGRESS that has taken place because they risked looking vulnerable. Admitting something is not going well is not saying you are a failure at life, although there will be some people who will judge you like that. Guess what? They need to hear your stories the most. A person who judges the vulnerable has a problem with becoming vulnerable herself. It is your very act of sharing your experience, your strength, and your hope, that creates the space for other women to admit what is going on with them too. We stand together in the same space, hold hands, and walk into the light. This is how we change the planet, this is how we heal.